PSYC 222
HOMEWORK INSTRUCTIONS
Due date: 1 Week from
today (Worth 3 points).
YOUR NAME: _________________________________
Read the attached comments about the opposite sex written by the
males in this class (or by males in other sections of this course).
Answer the following questions (your answers need not be typed--
you can write on this sheet if you wish). Indicate the page number and area of
the page where the comment can be found (e.g., column 1 or 2; top, middle or
bottom of the column).
You will discuss your reactions in small groups during the next
class session.
Which of the written comments made by the males:
1. ...was written so well
or eloquently, or addressed such a personal issue, that it evoked a sincere
sense empathy in you?
2. ...disturbed and/or
upset you, and why?
3. ...honestly revealed
something about male perceptions, feelings or thoughts that you suspect that
they generally might be very reluctant to admit to if their comments were not
anonymous.
4. ...seemed to be a
particularly good example of one of the robust gender differences predicted by
evolutionary psychology.
5. ...that you found, in
general, surprising and/or particularly interesting.
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QUESTION #1. Think about the previous interactions you have had
with the opposite sex. Has a situation ever occurred with someone of opposite
sex that you found deeply puzzling and/or incomprehensible? And which you also
think is somehow a function of that person's gender (not just the specific
individual involved)? If so, think
about what happened, and the behaviors, cognitions, motivations, or emotions of
the opposite sex that you found particularly puzzling.
#1 A recent puzzling occurance with a freind of the opposite sex
was when we were trying to plan an outing to a movie and ended up playing phone
tag for a little while. I had talked to
her once earlier in the day about it, and tryed to get ahold of her later to
verify. I called, left a message. She called, left a message. And when I finally reached her after getting
her massage, she said she didn't want to see a movie anymore because she was angry
that I called so much. It was puzzling
to me that her mood toward me changed so quickly after a minor, frustrating
dilema.
#1 Often times
speaking with a member of the opposite sex can be puzzling for me. The one thing that I find most puzzling is
the way that the opposite sex uses silence in their attempts to
communicate. They will at times think
that I am a mindreader and will know what they are thinking; therefore, they will assume that they do not
need to use verbal language. This for
me is quite puzzling because I am not a mindreader and their silence usually
just frustrates
and/or worries me.
#1 There are certain
behaviors of women, in general, that I find truly incomprehensible. Most of these enigmas are behaviors that I
have observed women enjoy doing, such as shopping.
#1 One time I found
myself out to a movie with a female friend.
The theme of the film was that of action and violence. People were
getting shot up left and right and in one scene an assassin took aim at a
father holding his child and took out two birds with one stone if you know what
I mean. When this scene occurred the
girl I was with completely lost it and had what I witnessed to be a emotional
breakdown including heavy crying mixed with shortness of breath as if she were
terrified. After the movie she was
embarrassed at her reaction. I just do
not understand why a movie (not real) could put her over the top like
that. I think she was having a bad day
earlier with her parents so maybe she just needed a catharsis.
#1 One time I found
myself out to a movie with a female friend.
The theme of the film was that of action and violence. People were
getting shot up left and right and in one scene an assassin took aim at a
father holding his child and took out two birds with one stone if you know what
I mean. When this scene occurred the
girl I was with completely lost it and had what I witnessed to be a emotional
breakdown including heavy crying mixed with shortness of breath as if she were
terrified. After the movie she was
embarrassed at her reaction. I just do
not understand why a movie (not real) could put her over the top like that. I think she was having a bad day earlier
with her parents so maybe she just needed a catharsis.
#1. In all my interactions
with the opposite sex the one thing that puzzles me is their sudden mood
changes. Nothing bothers me more than
when my girlfriend or any of my female friends are in a good mood, and then all
of a sudden they turn to she- devils. And not only at that time of the
month. It seems like everyday. The
times that this really bothers me is when my girlfriend is in a good mood and I
say one word that she takes the wrong way and all of a sudden my life is a
living hell. Girls need to choose a
mood, not one or two for the hour, but one.
#1. There have been
previous interactions where the opposite sex has found me puzzling and things
of that nature. The main reason for
this is they did not know what aspect I was coming from and my thoughts behind
it. I think it did have to do with
their gender because we do think differently as different sexes. It can also be
the opposite where I have found the opposite somewhat puzzling
because they're coming from a different aspect than I am.
#1. I do not remember any
interactions with anyone that were particularly puzzling. I certainly don't think that any that I may
have had would be due to the persons gender.
#1 I cannot think of one
unique situation that I have found deeply puzzling or confusing, but at times I find my girlfriend's
personality incomprehensible just because she is a girl. I am sensitive to her
needs, but she often goes through an array of emotions during the day that I
cannot understand because I am a guy. I think this is a common conflict for
most relationships. It is nearly impossible for men and women to fully
understand each other because they have
different genders.
#1. My job is very
physical and sometimes I sweat as a result of it. Once I was around a girl who
saw me sweating and she said something, nothing bad or anything but it just
shows girls do not like sweat, period, on themselves or anyone else. I'm not saying I do like it but I play basketball
and I skateboard so I've learned to live with it.
#1 It often puzzles me how
girls/women are thoroughly miserable in the relations that they are in but
remain in that relationship simply "they've been together for so
long". Many times, "so
long" has been insignificant in the great scheme of things and they
haven't been happy for much of that time.
It seems to me that women often let themselves lose their identity when
in a relationship and are then afraid to end a relationship that is psychologically
damaging. I don't think girls are even
manipulated much of the time but in fact fully realize the personality
surrender in which they engage but find it "cute" at the time.
#1 I was with a girl one time and she was crying. O.K., no big deal, lots of people cry. I asked her why she was crying and she said
she did not know. I spent the next hour
trying to make her feel better and tried to figure out what the problem
was. She had no clue why and neither
did I. I left and returned to her place
later that day and she was perfectly fine and happy. To this day I am deeply puzzled as to why she did this. I think that because she was a women she was
unable to say why she was crying. Women
have the ability to let their emotions out, and do so quite often, where men do
not.
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QUESTION #2. In general,
what do you like about the opposite sex?
What do you dislike?
#2 In general, I like
that many women are passionate and caring, as a result of being able to read
other people's emotion's quite aaccurately most of the time. What I don't like
is that, in general, women expect everyone else (men) to be able to do it as
well as they can.
#2 In general, I
like the following qualities about the opposite sex: they are romantic, intuitive, gentle, caring, affectionate,
beautiful, thoughtful, and intimate. In
general, I dislike the following qualities about the opposite sex: they are
self-conscious, get too jealous, they are moody, give guys the silent
treatment, and they are vague when communicating.
#2 In general, I like
the beauty, sexual appeal, comfort, and care provided by the opposite sex. I also think they are great listeners when I
really need someone to talk to.
#2 I like it when I
can exchange in flirting with a member of the opposite sex. It is kind of like we both know in our own
heads what's going on, but when your just meeting a girl and getting good vibes
from a her and the excitement starts to build, that's too fun for me. Not to mention that holding someone your
attracted to closely or cuddling with them is great. I like their willingness to be taken care of and their nurturing
attitude. What annoys me is the fact
that the unspoken bond doesn't work well.
You have to voice your feelings to them about them or they'll start
thinking something is wrong. Also I
think the opposite sex puts their feelings-which often resemble a roller
coaster- in the forefront of their decision making process which I think should
be replaced with sound reason and self- confidence.
#2 I like it when I
can exchange in flirting with a member of the opposite sex. It is kind of like we both know in our own
heads what's going on, but when your just meeting a girl and getting good vibes
from a her and the excitement starts to build, that's too fun for me. Not to mention that holding someone your
attracted to closely or cuddling with them is great. I like their
willingness to be taken care of and their nurturing attitude. What
annoys me is the fact that the unspoken bond doesn't work well. You have to voice your feelings to them
about them or they'll start thinking something is wrong. Also I think the opposite sex puts their
feelings-which often resemble a roller coaster- in the forefront of their
decision making process which I think should be replaced with sound reason and
self-confidence.
#2 I like the affection a
woman provides. The nurturing
tenderness a woman is able to give out feels wonderful. I also like the soft and gentle skin of most
women. I like the way women seem to be
more in touch with their emotions. I
particularly dislike the sudden mood changes most women experience. Also, the way that most women are overly
critical about themselves and others.
#2. First off, what I like about girls are their bodies or more so
their physiological differences from males.
Secondly, the one thing that I really like is they are not egotistical
or arrogant, like males. I also like
how nurturing, loving and affectionate they can be. I like how generally most females are ambitious or goal
oriented. They also know how to express
their emotions. I also like the cute
faces they make when they want something or begging for something.
As for dislikes females are too critical of themselves thinking
that they are too fat or some crazy idea like that. Then there is all the drama that they go through or even the
drama that they create. What really
annoys me is having to wait for 3 days for a girl to ready to go to a movie,
and then we are late and walking in during the beginning of the movie with no
seats left. Most of the time, I dislike
how manipulative women can be. Trying
to get you to do this and that. Then
there is the communication problem, if you they want something they just say it
and not take a week to get it out.
#2. What I like about the
opposite is obviously physical. I like
that they are, in general, different.
We think differently and act differently. We are a lot alike, but
what I like most is the differences. I
dislike, however, that they don't understand that we are pretty much different
and think in different ways. We have to
understand that the two sexes are different other than just physically.
#2. Once again, I don't
think that any specific traits can be said to be attributes of any one
particular sex.
#2 In general, there are a
few things I like about the opposite sex. I like the fact that women have varied interests from men. Also,
I enjoy the companionship of a girl friend to share interests together. I
dislike the incomprehensible conflicts that I face with the opposite sex, which
often stems from an inability to communicate properly. In General, I dislike the fact that women
just simply expect men to know what there needs are without saying
anything.
#2.First of all I like the way girls look and the way they take
care of themselves. I like smooth, soft
skin, nicely groomed hair smelling like country apple shampoo as if she just stepped
out the shower. I like the way she does
her nails and how she color coordinates them to match what she is wearing. She's beautiful without the makeup but it
just adds to her natural beauty. I like
what she wears and the time and effort she puts into herself. I do not want to come across as
superficial but there is no denying that the first thing that attracts you to a
certain person is the way he or she looks.
That is why you choose to talk to that person over others. As equally important to how a girl looks is
how she acts because a pretty face comes a dime a dozen. I like doing something with a girl like
playing a sport, shooting pool, or going shopping or an even simpler activity
and having the activity not be all that important; it's just being with that
girl that makes me happy. I like when I
make girls laugh, just knowing I made them smile makes me smile too.
#2 I like about the
opposite sex: sentimentality, affection (physical and emotional), loyalty (when
applicable).
#2 What I like about the opposite sex is the fact that women are
affectionate, trustworthy, attractive, and sensitive. I do know many women that would not fit all of these categories,
but in general, most women have these traits.
What I do not like about women are that they are over dramatic, gossipy,
they have mood swings, and most all women can not take a complement, and if
they could, I would probably think they are arrogant.
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QUESTIION #3. What is the one thing that the opposite sex most
misunderstands about your own sex?
#3 I think that the
biggest missunderstanding women have about men is that
not all of us "just want to have sex."
#3 The opposite sex
most misunderstands how we communicate.
This problem is twofold. For
one, they often times will not understand us when we talk to them. They jump to conclusions about what we say,
take a joke too seriously, or shape what we have said into a completely
different meaning. Secondly, they do not make their point across to us clearly
enough so that we can understand what it is that they are talking about. They are too vague when speaking and will
beat around the bush before getting to the main point of the conversation. This will usually put us in a confused
state. Then they will get mad at us
when we don't understand what they were trying to say. And silence is the worst. They sometimes try to communicate to us
through silence as if we are supposed to know what it is that they are
thinking. How should we know?
#3 The opposite sex
(women) misunderstand most the way in which we communicate our love and
affection. Also, they misunderstand our
goals in pursuing relationships.
#3 That all we want them for are sexual
objects.
#3 That all we want
them for are sexual objects.
#3 I think that the one
thing that most women misunderstand about men is that all men are football
fanatics and prefer to stay home every Sunday to watch
football games. I myself
prefer to be outdoors on a Sunday. Maybe at a park or driving down the coast,
rather than watching a football game.
#3. The one thing that females most misunderstand about males is
our mind. They always interpret our
words so wrong in a way that it gets us into trouble. There's no hidden meaning in what we are telling them.
#3. The thing the opposite
sex misunderstand about us the most is how we think. They usually don't
understand where we're coming from with our thoughts just because we are the
opposite sex.
#3. Most of the people of
the other sex understand me as well as those of the same sex.
#3 I think women often
misunderstand that we enjoy doing things that they do not particularly like. Women often do not like
to tolerate men just being guys.
#3 Girls do not understand that guys lose respect for girls who
give it up too easily. Some girls think
that if they give a guy what he wants then that will make him have feelings toward her, but the exact opposite is true; he'll
lose respect for the girl. Don't get me wrong, he will still see her, who can
blame him, but the last thing he is trying to do is turn a ho into a
house-wife.
#3 I dislike about the
opposite sex: ambiguity, weakness of character when it is emotionally easier to
be weak, proclivity for feeling neglected.
#3 Women most misunderstands what our priorities are. When we decide to go out with the guys, they
do not understand why and think that we do not care about them. To us its just doing something fun. We are not trying to get away from women or
hide from our girlfriends, we're just hanging out.
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QUESTION #4. Think about a time when you found yourself
particularly attracted to someone of the opposite sex. What characteristics of that person do you
think attracted you? What was the most
important factor that attracted you to this person, e.g., physical appearance,
personality traits, self-confidence, social status, friendly gestures toward
you, etc.?
#4 Usually when I spot
a person of the opposite sex that I find attractive,
I tend to notice certain things about them in a certain order.
First, I always have to notice their face.
Then their body, and that's when I can also somewhat evaluate their
style, taste, etc., judging by the clothes they are wearing. SHOES play a very important role in this
stage of a "check out." Then,
she either keeps walking or I get to meet her, and her personality determines
whether I am still attracted to this girl or not.
#4 The three most
important characteristics that attract me to someone of the opposite sex are:
physical appearance, personality, and friendliness toward me. The first thing that I, or anyone else for
that matter, notice about someone is their appearance. Physical beauty is the first thing that
attracts me to members of the opposite sex.
This is so because upon first meeting a girl, this is all that you know
about her, what she looks like. After
that, I start to pick up on her personality and friendliness toward me. If she were beautiful but had a personality
incompatible with my own, then persuing a relationship with her would not be very
wise for me. Likewise, it helps if she
is nice to me, tries to talk with me, and understands me and my interests. These are all very attractive qualities.
#4 What attracted me
to a particular woman was primarily her personality and the way she looked at
me. Also, her manner of speaking with
me and her intelligence. Then there is
the physical appeal, which I also took into account. Of these characteristics, the most important is her
personality.
#4 The characteristics
which put me head over heals one time for a girl were like this. She was older, independent from her parents,
intelligent, sexy as I'd ever seen, willing to take risks, caring, nurturing,
funny, and confident.
#4 The characteristics
which put me head over heals one time for a girl were like this. She was older, independent from her parents,
intelligent, sexy as I'd ever seen, willing to take risks, caring, nurturing,
funny, and confident.
#4 She was tall and
slim. When I say slim, I don't mean anorexic. She had a plump physique and curves in all
the right places. She had beautiful
curly hair that embraced her dark- skinned face. When I looked in her direction, she stood with an erect posture
that showed her strong confidence that she knew I wanted her. Although she was at the other end of the
party, pretending not to notice me, I constantly caught her looking in my
direction. And every time I caught her,
she sent a huge smile my way.
#4. When I met my
girlfriend besides her obvious physical attractiveness, I absolutely loved her
sense of humor. Just from having the
same sense of humor we found out that we had so much in common. Which is a plus, because you don't want to
be with someone if you don't have much in common. I've played
volleyball since I was in the 3rd grade and when I found out that
she did too, it drew me to her even more.
One last thing is she has the cutest way of asking for things.
#4. I would have to say
that the physically is what attracted me most to the opposite sex,
initially. There has to be some form of
physical attraction. It doesn't have to
be a great deal, but just something that keeps me physically
attracted. The most important factor that attracted me is
physical appearance
and a personality different than mine.
#4. The characteristics
that most had to do with my being attracted were related to personality and
physical appearance.
#4. When I think of my current relationship with my girlfriend,
the primary thing that attracted me to her the most was her radiant smile and
her big breasts. I also noticed that
there was a large amount of sexual tension between us. As a began to know her as a friend I noticed
that she was a very sensible person. The most important factor that attracted
me to this person was her personality traits of friendliness and loving acceptance.
#4 The last time I liked a girl was ironic because her looks were
not what initially attracted me to her.
I was introduced to her through a friend and I just thought of her as
another girl but as I began to be around her more often I found myself liking
her more and more. I liked her smile
the most. She also had beautiful eyes
and a soft, welcoming voice.
#4 The most important
thing that attracts me is: INTEREST IN
ME. When a girl is interested in me, I
am automatically, initially attracted.
I may not want to peruse anything at all but it always makes an initial
attraction. If a girl thinks I'm funny
(which I often am) then that is an endearing quality. Then other issues take over.
For example, her physical appearance is an important factor, self
confidence is definitely importance but not if it is overdone to the point
where the girl is militant. I'm quiet until I get to know people so an outgoing
girl makes things easier. Not so
incessantly talkative that I can't get a word in, but friendly enough so I can
flirt back as opposed to having to flirt first.
#4 The characteristics of the girl that attracted me were
obviously her looks, but also her kindness and realism. There are millions of beautiful women in the
world, but for one of them to be truly attractive, they must have something
else. I found myself attracted to this
girl because she was acting like a normal person. She was not trying to impress anyone. She was being her real self, kind, sweet, and beautiful.
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QUESTION #5. In your opinion, what are the strengths and
weaknesses of the opposite sex?
#5 The strengths of
women in general: intuition, ablity to easily seduce
men, rarely step out of their moral boundries. Weaknesses: a little too much intuition
sometimes, rarely stepping out of their moral boundries.
#5 The strengths of
the opposite sex are: their intuition, thoughtfulness,
romantic tendancies, affection, and intimacy. Their weaknesses are: their self-
consciousness, jealous tendencies, poor inter- gender communication skills, and
moodiness.
#5 The opposite sex
(women) is very strong in communication and understanding
social/interpersonal situations or relationships. The opposite sex is, however, weak in
understanding their opposite sex, that is, men. They are also weak at restraining or controlling their emotions,
which is why they appear overly
emotional to men.
#5 Strengths: Usually
sensible, understand and help deal with emotional
problems better, more self-motivated than guys. Weaknesses: Not emotionally as stable as men, very often have low self- esteem which augments their desire
to be attractive or desirable, vagueness.
#5 Strengths: Usually
sensible, understand and help deal with emotional
problems better, more self-motivated than guys. Weaknesses: Not
emotionally as stable as men, very often have
low self- esteem which augments their desire to be attractive or desirable,
vagueness.
#5 I think that a strength
of the opposite sex is that they are stronger than men. When I say stronger, I don't mean physical
strength. It just seems that since
women are more in touch with their emotions, they are better able to hide
them. For example, during a relationship
break-up, I have discovered that most women are better able to turn away from
their male partner more easily than men can.
A common weakness is that most women are too gossipy. Being too gossipy can cause women to
entangle themselves in a mess that they have difficult time releasing
themselves from.
#5. As far as strengths go
for femalesummm they tend to smell nice.
They are able to express their feelings with their friends, where guys
can't do that with their guy friends. Females are also more empathetic. They are also not afraid to cry. They are able to get what they want through
manipulation techniques
such as whining.
For their weaknesses, one, they gossip too much. Which in turn creates
drama where there is none.
They also seem to misconstrue everything that guys say and they end up
putting words into our mouths. This
also goes along with them being too sensitive.
One last weakness is, generally most females are too picky.
#5. The strengths of the
opposite sex is how outgoing most of them are.
Another trait would be how they are different emotionally than
people of my sex. That is part of the attraction there; that we are different
personality wise. The weaknesses are that they seem to swing from one side to
the other on issues without skipping a beat.
They change their mind very often and overanalyze the little
things.
#5. I think that each
individual person has different strengths and weaknesses, not each sex.
#5 In my opinion the
greatest strength of the opposite sex is their ability to listen and understand
when you need to talk to someone about an important problem of factor in your
life. A weakness of the opposite sex is when they displace their emotions.
#5 One strength girls possess is their ability to go off of
instinct in certain situations instead of trying to think through
everything. Sometimes it is better to
dive into something, like entrusting one's feeling onto another, without
thinking too much about it. Another
weakness of girls is that they take things too personally. They let little, insignificant things bother
them.
#5 The greatest strength
of women is their ability to show emotion.
That is important in any relationship from mother to child / husband to
wife/ friend to friend. BUT, their
greatest weakness, is that women are often controlled by their emotions. I'm
sure an argument can be made that men are controlled by chemicals produced in
their gonads but I'm dealing with women and their (I dare say Universal)
ability to have their best judgement subjugated by emotions. Emotional incentives are not always bad, but
when emotion overrides strength of character, ethical convictions, moral
responsibilities, or simple common sense it is hazardous to the woman and any
relationship in which she is involved.
#5 I feel that the strengths and weaknesses of women are the same
as the qualities in them which I like and dislike as answered in question
two.
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QUESTION #6. Can you think of any instances in which you have personally been treated unfairly by
the opposite sex? If so, give a brief
description of what happened.
#6 No.
#6 Offhand, I am
unable to think of a particular instance in which I was treated unfairly by a
member of the opposite sex. I can, however, give a general synopsis of what has
occasionally happened to me in the past. Sometimes girls have gotten angry with
me after I made a light joke about something.
I guess that's just the way I am, probably most guys, too. I will just kid around about something and
the girl will get very mad at or disappointed in me.
Intending to get a laugh, I would instead get delt the silent
treatment, unsure of what I have done wrong or why the girl is mad at me. When I try to bring it up, she will get even
angrier at me. This is unfair and
frustrating.
#6 Once, this girl who
lives across the hall from me was telling me about her ex-boyfriend and I made
a comment saying, "oh, I heard of that." She totally
misunderstood me and to this day she has this evil grudge against
me, and I was just trying to be there for her like a good neighbor should.
#6 I found at a party
once that the girls would take an interest in me on the dancefloor but kept on
dogging me after a minute or so and just going off with other guys. I took this as a pretty big #*@! you from them and I did not have the
best time that night.
#6 I found at a party
once that the girls would take an interest in me on the dancefloor but kept on
dogging me after a minute or so and just going off with other guys. I took this as a pretty big #*@! you from them and I did not have the
best time that night.
#6 I was running a little
late for a date with my lady friend. My tardiness
seemed to be an issue in this relationship. She constantly suggested that she did not
mind the lateness as long as I called her to let her know that I was running
late. Well, when I did call her to let
her know I was running late, she let me have it over the phone, which
discouraged me from even showing up.
#6. There hasn't been a
time that I have been unfairly treated by any females. The only accounts that I
can recall are times when I'm the only male in a group of all females and all
of a sudden its bash on the male race. And I'm the only one that can defend the
males, while 4 or 5 females just taking out their
aggressions on the male race.
#6. Overall I have not
really been treated unfairly by the opposite sex, except if I deserved it. But I have not been treated unfairly just
because I'm the opposite sex than they are. Be treated like this only comes
into play when you disagree on subjects where both think you are right (but
then that really
doesn't have to do with sex differences).
#6. I was treated unfairly
by a person of the opposite sex in the financial aid office. The person didn't give me enough grant money
for me to attend school.
#6 I believe I am
sometimes treated unfairly by my girlfriend when I joke with her. She can often
put me down in a joking manner, but sometimes when I do the same she becomes
angry with me. I feel this is unfair because we cannot joke with each other
equally.
#6 I can not think of a time when I've been treated unfairly by
the opposite sex.
#6 Here is a general
statement that will pretty much sum up almost EVERY time I have been treated
unfairly. I have had girls have certain
expectations of me and not bother to mention to me what they expected. I am not a mind reader. I might fail in aspects of a relationship
but I am beginning at a disadvantage when I don't a have a clue about what is
expected of me.
#6 An intense in which I
felt personally treated unfairly by the opposite sex was when I was judged by a
girl to be a jerk, and a male chauvinistic pig simply because she had a bad
incident with a guy and she assumed all other guys were like him.
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QUESTION #7. Can you think of any instances in which you have been
treated particularly well by the opposite sex, simply because of your (or
their) gender? If so, give a brief description of what happened.
#7 In many
relationships I've had, my girlfriend will treat me very particularly and
peculiarly well when she's horny.
#7 Early on in my
friendship with my current girlfriend, she used to treat me very well (she
still does) simply because of my gender.
She enjoyed our friendship and she wanted to make something more of it. She took me out to lunch on my birthday and
paid for my surprise dessert. That was
cool.
#7 No.
#7 A girl once brought
me some things when I was sick to show me that she
cared. Then four more girl
friends came by. But never any of my
guy friends.
They'd just call me. Girls
go out of their way moreso than guys to show that they care.
#7 A girl once brought
me some things when I was sick to show me that she
cared. Then four more girl
friends came by. But never any of my
guy friends.
They'd just call me. Girls
go out of their way moreso than guys to show that they care.
#7 It was my birthday, so
my lady friend invited me over to her house.
As soon as I got there, she greeted me with balloons and a small
cake. She treated me like a king, but
in her castle. She prepared a dinner for me, and throughout
the entire night made sure that I was being well taken care
of.
#7. There isn't any
instance that I can recall where I've been treated
particularly well because I'm a male. However, every time that a girl wants something such as opening
something or reaching up to get something because they are too short to reach
it etc. they always put on a sweet smile and treat you nice until the task is
completed, then they aren't sweet anymore.
#7. I have been treated
quite fairly by the opposite sex. It
happens most when they're feeling alone mostly and want someone to talk
to.
#7. I have been treated
well by members of the opposite sex, sexually.
What I mean to say is that I don't believe I would have received the
same sexual treatment if I had been their same sex. Who knows though!
#7 I felt like I was
treated well by the opposite sex when my girlfriend bought us tickets to an
indoor football game Even though she was not a fan of football she bought the
tickets because she knew I would appreciate it. I was able to admire the fact
that she made a sacrifice my enjoyment.
#7 I have been treated particularly well by girls in certain
little situations, for instance, when I do not have enough money for something,
a female cashier usually let's me slide.
#7 The phrase "simply
because of your (or their) gender" makes this difficult to answer. I'm not sure their weren't other factors
involved so I'm going to have to decline to answer.
#7 I was treated very well
by women when I was in Japan. Japanese men are very rude to Japanese
women. Because of this, Japanese women
love American men and are very nice to them.
This might be an example of race and gender differences.
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QUESTION #8. Describe an
instance, or instances, when you have been rejected by someone of the opposite
sex to whom you were attracted. How did they reject you? Was their behavior inconsiderate, rude or
insensitive? How did it make you feel?
How might they have done it in a more considerate way?
#8 Personally, I have
never been rejected by someone of the opposite sex to whom I was attracted and
not already dating. I either just don't
ask them out, or I already know they want me to ask them out.
#8 I remember back
in my sophomore year of high school I really liked this one girl and I could
tell that she kind of liked me. We had
gone out with
friends a couple of times in the past and had also gone to a
school dance
together so I decided to ask her to be my girlfriend. She kindly declined,
stating that she wasn't ready for a boyfriend/girlfriend
relationship and that we hadn't even really gone out on a date yet. I felt somewhat dejected but she agreed to
go out with me on a date later that week to see how things went. A couple of months later, we became
boyfriend/girlfriend.
#8 I have never taken
a real risk such as would put me in a precarious
situation. I have always
been careful not to let myself get rejected by the opposite sex.
#8 Sometimes I am
shown utter rudeness by women who reject me like in #6.
Other times the ignoring tactic seems to be the favorite. Both of these tactics leave me feeling
small. Just coming out and saying,
"I'm not interested in you," would be weird and blunt but I think I
would also prefer it so that I'm not wasting my time.
#8 Sometimes I am
shown utter rudeness by women who reject me like in #6.
Other times the ignoring tactic seems to be the favorite. Both of these tactics leave me feeling
small. Just coming out and saying,
"I'm not interested in you," would be weird and blunt but I think I
would also prefer it so that I'm not wasting my time.
#8 I was at a night club,
when I noticed this beautiful woman standing across the hall. I looked at her, and pondered on whether I
even had a chance with this woman. I
mean, she was definitely the breadwinner of horses. I decided to walk up to her and start a conversation, she quickly
stopped me even before I said, "Hi."
She said, "before you come at me with your bullshit, I'm not
interested." I could
not believe what had just happened. She
threw my ego on the floor and stabbed it with her heels. I felt like introducing her to "the
bird," but I just turned away in search of another possible prospect.
#8. To tell you the truth
I've never been rejected before. Probably because
I'm too shy.
#8. They rejected me by
just telling me they are already involved with someone else or are just not
interested. Every now and again, you
get the rude person who just blows you off, but that doesn't seem to happen too
often. Usually they are flattered and
are sensitive in letting me down.
#8. I have yet to be full
crushed by a person of the opposite sex, but the closest was a few years ago
before university started. I started
dating
this amazing person. It
was one of those people, the ones who have the thing. After a few weeks, the
person broke it off saying that I was not being enough of my own person to make
the relationship interesting. I
agreed. I had got so caught up in the
idea of being liked by this particular person that I tried to be whatever I
thought the person wanted. It was a
very fair and honest
treatment. Today we are
still very close friends.
#8 I have been rejected as
a friend, but I cannot recall a time when I was rejected by someone of the
opposite sex. When I was rejected as a friend it was not for anything bad that
I did, but it was for just being nice to someone. I believe this rejection
related to her gender because her emotions would go up and down at any given
time.
#8 I've been rejected by a girl that I had been talking to for a
little while. I thought she was a cool
girl and she seemed to like me so I tried to ask her to take the relationship
to another level and but she did not even let me do it. She took off without even confronting the
situation and later hooked up with some guy she had also been seeing. (Believe me, it was for the better.)
#8 I never make the first
move. Rejection is not something I'm
prepared to deal with so I really don't go out on a limb much.
#8 I have never been
rejected in a cruel way by women. I'm
not a stud or anything, don't get me wrong.
I do not just go up to women and ask them out, I usually let them make
the first move. If they make the first move, only I can do the
rejecting!!!
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Imagine that you have known someone of the opposite sex for about a month. You have dated this person several tim