WOMEN, SPRING
03
PSYC 222
HOMEWORK
INSTRUCTIONS
Due
date: 1 Week from today (Worth 3
points).
YOUR NAME:
_________________________________
Read the
attached comments about the opposite sex written by the
females in
this class (or by females in other sections of this
course).
Answer the
following questions (your answers need not be typed--
you can write
on this sheet if you wish). Indicate the page
number and
area of the page where the comment can be found (e.g.,
column 1 or
2; top, middle or bottom of the column).
You will
discuss your reactions in small groups during the next
class
session.
Which of the
written comments made by the females:
1. ...was written so well or eloquently, or
addressed such a
personal
issue, that it evoked a sincere sense empathy in you?
2. ...disturbed and/or upset you, and why?
3. ...honestly revealed something about female
perceptions,
feelings or
thoughts that you suspect that they generally might
be very
reluctant to admit to if their comments were not
anonymous.
4. ...seemed to be a particularly good example
of one of the
robust gender
differences predicted by evolutionary psychology.
5. ...that you found, in general, surprising
and/or particularly
interesting.
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QUESTION #1.
Think about the previous interactions you have had
with the
opposite sex. Has a situation ever occurred with someone
of opposite
sex that you found deeply puzzling and/or
incomprehensible?
And which you also think is somehow a function
of that
person's gender (not just the specific individual
involved)? If so, think about what happened, and the
behaviors,
cognitions,
motivations, or emotions of the opposite sex that you
found
particularly puzzling.
#1 I dont
understand why guys are so competitive and have a need
to show
off. It is a turn off when two guys are
trying to prove
who is
bigger, or stronger, or better at something.
I also dont
understand
why males are so consumed by sex. I feel
that if I
can control
my hormones with ease, why do they insist on not
controlling
their hormones, or why is it so difficult for them to
control
themselves?
#1 It is a
very cliche scene; a
women walks
by a group of men. It doesn't seem to matter what the
women is
wearing, it could be a mini skirt it could be a business
suite and the
men start whistling and making sexually suggestive
comments
towards her. The woman for her part was minding her own
business, was
not being sexually provocative, and was not
inviting the
attention. I have seen this on TV it happens to my
friend and
myself, and I know that this is not something that
women feel
the urge to do, and it has always confused me why men
will do this.
#1. A situation occurred with the opposite sex
were everything
was bothering
him and he would get mad very easily but when I
tried talking
to him, he would tell me nothing was the matter.
He dismissed
anything I said and would only get madder. I knew
that if he
only talked about it he would feel better but he
preferred to
bottle it up inside which made everyone around him
feel
worse. He was sad about something that
happened to him but
his emotions
showed something totally different.
Instead of
opening up he
closed himself off through his actions.
His
emotions and
behavior puzzled me a great deal. His
solution was
to ignore
himself and his feelings through his anger and
dismissal of
feelings.
#1 Yes, there have been multiple situations in
which an
encounter
with a person of the opposite sex has been puzzling at
the very
least. Most of these situations happened
when I was in
high school
and middle school. I had some guy
friends who I
could never
understand.
Sometimes the way they behaved was so strange;
always trying to
act tougher
than they were, and always acting younger than their
age. One particular guy seemed always nervous when
he talked to
me. I found out later that he actually was
attracted to me, but
I couldn't
figure out why he couldn't act like a normal person in
front of
me. It might have been only him, but I
found that a lot
of guys seem
tense when talking to someone of the opposite sex
whom they are
attracted to. There are just too many
things about
the opposite
sex that I just don't understand.
I think a lot of their characteristics have to
do with the way
our society
has constructed certain rules for them.
There is
this
"box" that all males have to fit into, and if they don't,
they are seen
as unmanly, or weak. In order to avoid the risk of
being shut
out by other males, they act in certain ways that may
be different
from what they really think. Maybe this
is why they
act so
strange sometimes. Something that has always puzzled me is
how they deal
with anger and frustration.
Instead of talking about it or having an
emotional break down
like most
women do, they go out and either drink or commit some
violent act.
#1. A friend
was going through some really tough times and was
seeking comfort
in her friends. A guy in our group was very
insensitive
to what was going on. I think it was because he was a
guy that he
did not understand how to be sympathetic. I do not
understand
why guys are not in tune with their feeling, or why
they try so
hard to hide their feelings.
#1 A situation occurred where a male friend
asked me to
leave his
room after we had been "play fighting" and making fun
of one
another. He is usually a friend who I
can joke around
with
excessively and not get bothered, but in this particular
instant he
seemed very cold and simply asked myself and another
male friend
to leave his room. I think this was his
way of
letting us
know that his feelings were hurt without saying that.
#1. I have
had multiple interactions with different males in
which they
have justified wearing the same clothes multiple days
before
washing them. My main concern is with
socks and
underwear. I
can accept wearing jeans, sweatshirts, pajamas, and
even t-shirts
more than one time before washing them, but it is
just
uncleanly to wear socks or underwear for more than one day.
I have heard
that boxers that have my lying on the floor for a
couple of
days are actually self-cleaning, that they can be worn
inside out,
and that as long as it isn't for two consecutive
days, they
can be worn two or even three times in one week. How
is it
possible for an intelligent male to believe this is
healthy? Do
they really think that they are clean?
I'm sorry,
but just
because you didn't do anything particularly active and
did not stain
your clothes, that isn't an excuse for not washing
your clothes
or your body.
#1 A
situation that occurred with someone of the opposite sex
that I found
deeply puzzling and incomprehensible was at the
beginning of
the semester when I got into a deep conversation
with one of
my guy friends. My friend told me that he had never
met a smart
girl, at that moment my jaw hit the floor. I said,
Well, what
about your mother? and he just repeated himself, I
have never
met a smart girl. He continued to tell me that he
never wants
to see a women become president. I of course argued
until I was
blue in the face, and it really didnt do any good. I
was curious,
so I asked him if he thought men and women were
equal, he said,
Yes, but I dont think they should be able to be
president or
priests. That night I decided to ask other guys the
same question
and they all agreed with my friend. I
can not
comprehend
this type of thinking, it doesnt even make sense. If
men and women
are equal then why dont the men I asked
think
women should
be president or priests? Many times when I ask this
question the
males will tell me that women are too emotional to
be president
and they shouldnt be able to be priests because
Jesus was a
man and it just goes back to tradition. I personally
just think
that men dont want to see women in a position of power
and it seems
to me that many men think that women are not smart
enough, or
strong enough to take on such positions.
#1 Once, I found pornographic magazine at my
boyfriend's
apartment. I tend to think that possession of this kind
of
material is
definitely specific to the male gender.
I know that
most of my
male friends have at some time in their life viewed
pornography. Their motivation must be sexual arousal, but
aren't
there enough
real life situations to stimulate men that way?
Especially if
they are in an intimate relationship?
There are a
few things I
don't understand. First, I find it
puzzling that
males feel
the need to use porn. Second, it seems
that they will
usually try
to keep porn hidden like it is something to be
ashamed of,
but will still indulge in it anyway. They are very
aloof when
they discuss porn with friends, like they're trying to
downplay it's
subject matter. Then, when it is addressed in a
more serious
setting, I believe they can understand how it must
make women
feel. I tend to think that porn, besides obviously
objectifying
women, gives men a false sense of what to expect of
women in a sexual
relationship both in appearance and action.
I
believe that
the negativity of portraying women merely as sexual
objects is a
more important issue than being occasionally
sexually
gratified by pornography.
#1 As far as interactions with the opposite sex
a situation that
occurs to me
was when a boy expressed interest in me, had let it
be known that
he liked me, but then never pursued anything
further. He
had told people that he liked me but never bothered
to even
initiate anything between us. I didnt
understand why he
didnt want to
start dating. It just seemed really confusing to
me.
#1 I don't understand guys when they are
upset. They act so
differently
than girls do.When I'm upset, all I want to do is
talk about my
problems with my friends. But guys want
to be left
alone. But, miraculously they're over it after that
time alone.
I have found
that guys either clam up and refuse to talk about
their
problems or they blow up for a brief period of time and
then they are
fine. Despite this, the guys in my life
have
always been
very good
listeners. If I need to talk, they are there. I don't
understand
why they don't need to talk to me when they are upset.
Because of
this, I have learned that when any of my male friends
are upset, to
just give them time and if they need to talk, they
will when
they are ready. #1. Two of my friends
once told me
that their
ideal partner would be a woman who was intelligent,
with
aspirations of a career and also a family life. She would
have to most
of all carry herself with confidence and self-
respect. However, when I observe them approaching
women, they
approach
women who have the worst reputation of being promiscuous
and some
don't attend school. I'm always confused
by what they
say and what
they do, because they always contradict each other.
They know
what type of life they want with their partner, yet
never bother
to follow what they say. Unfortunately, I think most
men are like
my friends. They never look twice at the type of
woman they
talk about, and always approach the women they talk
badly about
and say they are disgusted by their sexual behavior.
#1 Yes, I
have had a situation where I find the opposite sex
(males) to be
puzzling and incomprehensible. I feel as though I
don't
understand him his motives. I was talking to this guy off
and on since
the beginning of my freshman year in college. I
thought we
hit it off. When we first talked he seemed very
interested.
He walked me home and I was under the impression that
this would
progress into something more. The next day, it seemed
as though he
didn't know who I was. Then our summer vacation came
and then
school started again. We then began a long on-going
process of
talking and not talking. It is now my fourth year in
college and I
finally decided to tell him that I had a crush on
him, more so
for my own sake because I was tired of playing his
stupid yo-yo
game of showing interest one moment and the next
acting like
he didn't know who I was. After I told him he acted
like nothing
happened but is now jealous because I don't give him
attention
anymore. I don't UNDERSTAND MEN!
#1. What is most puzzling to me about males
are their
terrible
listening skills. I can try to talk to
my boyfriend
about issues
that I take very seriously, perhaps I try to talk to
him about
conflicts with my girlfriends, and he is not capable of
honestly
listening and responding to what I say.
I realize that
the issues
aren't terribly significant in his life, but I can
always count
on my female friends to be good listeners and give
me
advice. My boyfriend usually responds
with a comment like,
"Oh
really, that's unfortunatewhat do you want to eat?" - What!
The only explanation I can think of is
perhaps this is a
result of
social roles and expectations. Women are
expected to
play the
emotional role of caregiver, whereas men are expected to
provide a
more physical protection oppose to emotional.
#1. My feelings about this are that guys assume
too much when in
a
relationship. In my past experience,
guys either assume either
what they
would like to be true or what they are afraid is true.
To be more
specific, usually guys assume that girls want to do
more sexually
than they let on, so they try and try to get their
way until
either the girl finally gives in or they both get
frustrated
about the whole situation. Guys should
just try to
go with the flow of things and if the girl wants
more, she
will usually let them know. Another situation might be
if the guy
fears a girl might cheat on him, he might be more
inclined to
think it because its his worst fear, even if its not
true.
#1. I suppose the most puzzling behavior that I
find males do
is when they
physically feel the need to beat up another male to
prove a
point. I once saw two males who were
friends get into a
very severe
fist fight one evening over something that I
considered to
be fairly unimportant, certainly not important
enough to
warrant a physical brawl. From my
understanding, males
resort to
fighting in order to prove a point and to try to prove
his
superiority.
Still, I don't understand how friends could
physically beat one
another up
severely in order to prove a relatively insignificant
point.
#1 It puzzled me when my after my boyfriend
of two years and
I broke up,
then a week later he is already dating someone else.
It bothered
me that he didn't seem as upset as I was about
breaking up.
I think if you've been together so long, wouldn't
there be a
grieving period? I asked him about this. He explained
it by saying
that he was still upset, but I guess this is just
his way of
dealing with it. Like dating other people is a way of
not thinking
about the break up or about his feelings. I
think this is
a function of his gender, not just him specifically
because I
know other guys who do the same thing. They move on
quickly.
Maybe it's just their way of hiding their feelings from
their
friends. But girls do not usually do that. I don't like how
to be a masculine
guy, guys must hide their feelings for girls
they truly
care about.
#1 After a night of drinking and hooking up
with a guy you
aren't
particularly interested in as boyfriend material, guys
will almost
always act differently, as if to stifle any immediate
plans or
expectations you had for a relationship between the two
of you. This however is quite peculiar. Can't a gal just have a
good time?
#1. I have a lot of guy friends. One thing that I have learned
is that
although it is
possible for a girl to be "just friends" with a
guy, it is
almost decidedly impossible for a guy to be "just
friends"
with a girl.
From the time I was one year old, I have been
friends with this
boy. He and I practically shared the same
womb. Over the years,
I came to
call him my god brother. Our parents
have always been
the best of
friends and he is the
closest thing
to a brother that I have ever had. Our
family
comes
together
at least once
a year. One year after spending a week
or so
together, it
was time for the normal goodbyes. I had
gone to the
bathroom. When I exited the bathroom, he cornered me to
"say
goodbye." I held out my hands to give him a hug and he
leaned in
and slipped
me the tongue. I was completely
discussed.
Latter I
heard form another source that he had said that if he
would have
stayed for
another day or so that, "we definitely would have
hooked
up."
I couldn't believe it. The only explanation I could think of
was that he
was a guy. They always have sex on the
brain and can
never truly
draw the line
between
friendship and something else.
#1. There is
one situation that I still to this day cannot
understand
about one of my best guy friends. My
friend has a
huge crush on
my best friend. He talks about how he
wants to
marry her and
how she is perfect. They have never gone
out and
never will go
out, yet my guy friend continues to profess his
love for
her. He even went as far as cussing out
her boyfriend
and he said,
"Stay away from _____, she is mine and I will always
be in her
life". I just do not understand how
he can be this
obsessed with
her and why he continues to make a fool out of
himself over
it. He is a great guy but this side of
him freaks
me out. I think that he is being a typical guy over
this and
was trying to
show his masculinity and that is why he cussed out
her boyfriend
and threatened to beat him up. Also, he is being
very
possessive of her, which I think is a how most guys get with
girls that
they really like.
#1. One of
the many situations that I found puzzling about men
was with my
ex boyfriend. I am the type of woman who takes pride
in doing
things on my own. I feel a sense of accomplishment in
doing things
myself instead of having others do something that I
am well
capable in doing for myself. My sense of independence was
a problem
with my ex boyfriend and I have never understood his
reasoning
behind this. He said to me, "you
never ask me for help
and it makes
me feel bad". I told him, "What's the big deal? You
should feel
good in knowing that I can take care of myself." He
continued to
explain to me that it made him feel like "less of a
man" not
being able to do more things for me. I guess men have
this constant
urge to prove their "manly-ness" and once that
feels
threatened they freak out.
#1 Something I find deeply puzzling about
the opposite sex
is there
ability to not become emotionally involved with someone
even though
they have are sexually involved with them.
For
example, when
I first began dating a boyfriend I had a few years
ago, he later
told me he had engaged in sexual acts with two
different
girls. He had said it occurred in the
beginning when
him and I
were not officially together, but I was still shocked
that he had
no problem hooking up with these girls even though it
was clear
that he and I had something going.
Secondly, I
really do not
understand how every male assumes that every woman
is dying for
commitment. Please, women want to have
as much no-
strings-attached
fun as men do. But because men assume
this
every time
they engage in any type of sexual act with a women
they feel the
need to try extra hard to be distant and unfriendly
because they
are convinced that they need to make it clear that
they do not
want a relationship. Saying hi to me in
passing
doesn't
automatically make me believe you think we are destined
to be
together.
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QUESTION
#2. In general, what do you like about
the opposite
sex? What do you dislike?
#2 In general I like the fact that males can get
ready in 10
minutes or
less and look good. Their low
maintenance is
appealingprobably
because it is a nice change from womens usual
high maintenance.
I also like the fact that males have very
little drama
in their lives; mainly because they deal with their
problems
differently, and usually quicker, than females do.
One of the things that I dislike about
males is the fact
that everything
is about sex. Girls will always feel
insecure if
a guy looks
at porn mags, or a hot chick walking by because she
feels as if
she is not pretty enough to get the guy, or keep the
guy.
What I also dislike is that they have a very
hard time
expressing
their feelings. Although I realize this is due to
societys
expectations on males to be tough and manly, but their
lack of
emotion makes a girl insecure about a guys true feelings.
Girls need to
be told that you love them, we cant assume it.
#2 likes: They are not as petty They are more laid
back, and do
not let small
problems bother them They are confident They can
protect girls
from other men They offer a different perspective
than what
women are used to They are independent Dislikes They
are
unresponsive to emotional situations They dont put as much
effort into
grooming/ cleaning. They tend to have
more shallow
relationships
with other men. They feel the need to
prove their
heterosexuality. They are commitment phobic. #2. In general I
like the fact
that men forget easily. They do not hold
grudges
for a long
time. They deal with an issue head on,
usually not
letting
emotions get in the way. If their
friends did something
to upset
them, they confront them right away and either talk it
over or fight
but it is resolved quickly. The next day
they are
playing
football together and the subject is never brought up
again. Our sex holds grudges for an extremely long
time. We
loose
friendships over this. Usually instead
of confronting the
person we
bottle it up inside and sometimes even pretend to like
a person
while we gossip behind their back. What I dislike about
men is that
they have two different faces. When they
are with a
group of men
they act quite different than when they are with the
opposite
sex. They are obnoxious and their IQ
drops when they
are with the
boys. Yet when they are with a girl they
act
sensitive,
open, and responsive. If they are with
the guys it is
as if you
never existed let alone ever had a deep conversation
with them.
#2 Some of the qualities that I like about the
opposite sex is
that they are
mostly out-going and very simple. They
tend to be
lower-maintenance
and have an uncomplicated way of looking at the
world. They also can make friends a lot easier than
women, just
by simple
things like common interests. They also
seem to carry
themselves in
a more confident manner, and don't really care as
much what
people think of them. Things that I
dislike about the
opposite sex
are that they are very egotistical and arrogant.
They are
unemotional, sometimes oblivious to people's needs, and
not very good
listeners. They just can't seem to get
to the same
level as
women can. They never seem to truly
understand how we
feel. I don't know if its because they don't want
to even try or
if its just
physically impossible. They also have a problem with
cleanliness
and orderliness. Most guys wouldn't
subject
themselves to
having to clean something. They are
messy and
don't care
about keeping things sanitary.
#2. The way
in which they dont make things so complicated. Males
dont make a
big deal about little things like females tend to do.
I think that
it is also easier to talk to males about some issues
because they
have a different perspective on things. The way
males try to
hide their feelings is a dislike. I dont understand
why they just
dont let it all out, but instead put on this macho
demeanor.
#2. In general, I like the fact that males
usually appear to
be self-confident
and good at decision making. Regardless
or
whether or
not they truly are self-confident they tend to try to
make the
effort to not appear overly shy or timid.
I also like
the fact that
males tend to be more independent than females in
the sense
that they seem less apprehensive to do things alone or
without a
group of friends. Chivalry shown towards
females is
also
something that I generally like about males.
However, I can say that some things I
dislike about males
is that they
tend to not be as good at listening to problems
because it
seems that their immediate reaction is to find a
solution to
the problem instead of listening to how the situation
makes me
feel. At times I feel that males take on
a superior and
cocky
attitude and that is something that I also dislike.
#2. I like
that a lot of times males are easier going. It sounds
derogatory to
say that they are "simple" because it implies that
they aren't
very intelligent, but not everything has to be broken
down and analyzed
with a male. The best way I can explain it is
that being in
a relationship with a female feels like playing a
game of
chess; you always have to be on your toes ready in case
she reacts
badly to something you say. It's easier to hurt a
female's feelings
and much harder to get out of trouble with her
once you
have. Guys don't get worked up over as many things and
won't react
as harshly if they are offended.
However, males are
not as good
of listeners as females are. A male is much more
interested in
the point of a story than the details of the story
itself. When talking to a male I am much more likely
to wonder
whether or
not he is even listening to me at all than I am when I
am with a
female. Sometimes a female will get so involved in
telling a
story that she won't even get to the end; males only
seem to tell
the end.
#2 The things
I like about the opposite sex are the way that they
protect women
and make them feels safe. I personally feel much
more
comfortable and safe if a guy is around. I like their
bravery and
how they for the most part arent afraid of
confrontations.
I like how guys are more straight forward when it
comes to making decisions and for the most part guys
know what
they want.
Some of the things that I dont like about the opposite
sex is how
aggressive they can become. I dont like how they
womanize and
I dont like how they want to be with many different
women instead
of just one. I dont like how men objectify women
and think
that they can control them. I dont like how they think
they can
touch you or slap you on the butt just because you are a
girl and they
are a guy. I dont like how dirty and unorganized
guys can be,
and I dont like how they seem to put sports and food
before
anything else.
#2 Here are some things I like about males. I like that when
I'm with a
male, I feel safer than if I were by myself.
Most
importantly,
I am less vulnerable to being attacked.
Also, if I
am not
interested in meeting other males with romantic pursuits,
it is less
likely I will be approached by another male while I'm
with a man
already. I am envious of a male body's
potential to
be physically
strong. I appreciate their assertive
nature. I
would like to
possess the male ability to think very
analytically. I am jealous that they need to do minimal
grooming
to be
attractive. I think men need to feel a sense of
superiority,
so they usually respond to challenges with extreme
competitiveness
or defensiveness. I don't like this male
attribute
because sometimes their attitude gets in the way. This
also makes
men less able to accept criticism (especially from
women). Men are expected to be tough, so they show
anger easily,
but are very
unwilling to show sadness as it may be seen as a
sign of
weakness. I would like them to be more
honest/open with
their
feelings. I wish men were more
thoughtful and would give
others more
consideration. I believe they try to be
emotionally
unaffected by
situations that may actually bother them, so they
expect the
same attitude from others even though some actions may
hurt others
feelings.
#2 I like how guys can be easier to make friends
with then
girls.
Sometimes it seems easier to get to know a guy then it is
to get to
know a girl. Guys also care less about
material things
than girls
do. They are less concerned with their looks and
sometimes
deal with tough situations better, not getting as
emotional as
women do. I dislike how guys tend to not listen as
well as girls
when you need to talk to them about something. They
offer
solutions instead of just listening whereas girls will
listen
forever to you talk about whatever you need to talk about.
Also how guys
feel the need to compete with other guys when it
comes to cars
and electronic stuff.
#2 I like how safe I feel around my guy
friends. I like that
they can get
over things quickly. I wish I were able
to not hold
grudges or
over think things so much like guys do.
I don't like
the way that
guys act differently around their guy friends than
they do
around their female friends. Guys need
to understand
that it's
okay to have emotions. #2 What I like
most about most
men is their
aggressiveness. I like the way they walk around
confident, as
if letting everyone know how strong they are
through their
appearance. They let every other guy know with a
look that
they will not hesitate to protect their partner if need
be. They are
always looking around making sure the area is safe,
and they are
safe in the environment.
What I dislike about men is their
insensitivity. They tend
to take the
aggressiveness to far and forget that they must show
their
feelings in order for their partner to know how they feel
about them.
They always assume the partner knows how they feel,
when in
reality, the partner always needs to be re-assured of
their
emotions.
#2 What I
like about men is the fact that they are rational when
it comes to
making decisions. They make everything seem so clear.
They also
have a tendency not to hold grudges with their friends
and they are
also very loyal to them. I also like the fact that
when I am
around a man, he make me feel secure and protected from
threatening
people and things. They also do not have a tendency
to gossip as
much as women do.
What I
dislike about men is that they are so inconsistent. They
act different
when you are alone with them then when they are
with their
friends. They are also very immature and dirty. They
feel the need
as though they have to prove themselves so they are
overly
confident and cocky. They feel that they have to prove
their
masculinity. They never want to talk about their feelings.
Lastly, I
dislike it when they feel as they are superior
intellectual
beings.
#2. I often enjoy how men can be simpler than
women,
especially in
social situations. Men are less likely to judge
others and
seem to make friends much easier.
Women can be very catty and shallow when
evaluating others.
What I dislike about men most is
inconsistency in their
actions. Although I know my boyfriends loves me, why
is it that
I am more
sure at times than others?
#2. My feelings about this are that I like when
guys show
chivalry on
dates, such as opening doors. I also
like the
general sense
of protection guys seem to have when youre around
them. I sometimes like asking guys for advice or
for their
opinion on a
topic or situation because they can give a different
perspective
than your girlfriends
can. I dislike how they act differently around
their friends, as
suppose to
how they act when you are alone with them.
I also
dislike the
quality of their listening ability and their lack of
tidiness.
#2. In general, I like the following about
males: Sense
of
protection They do not gossip
like women They
appear to be
more laid back at times They give
advice
from a less
emotional perspective They offer
different
perspectives
in general
In general, I dislike the following about
males: Poor
hygiene Commitment phobic Uncomfortable
discussing
feelings Appear to be insensitive
at times
when
sensitivity is very important
Ignoring other people
during
sporting games Lack of maturity
#2 I like how guys are more easy-going and
laid back than
girls are.
They don't have as much unnecessary drama with their
friends, they
gossip less, and they get along easier with almost
anyone. I
also like how they are more decisive.
I
dislike how
guys act towards their girlfriends, or girls they
care
about. This is probably not a problem
for older, more
mature men.
But many guys have trouble showing their feelings and
act very
aloof, giving their girlfriends the wrong impression.
Also, it's
hard for guys to talk about their feelings. I also
think it's
wrong when guys always put their friends before their
girlfriends.
#2 I like chivalry: paying for things,
opening doors,
guiding you
to the table by touching the small of your back,
pulling out
chairs....If I can't get the actual act, at least he
should
offer. I also enjoy feeling protected or
secure with a
bigger guy,
which is probably rooted in Freudian theory.
Conversely, a guy who demonstrates
characteristics of femininity
that go
beyond appropriate for either sex becomes unattractive,
if he's
heterosexual.
I also dislike the lack of hygiene,
sensitivity, and perspective
that is so
prominent within the male species.
#2. In general I like and dislike a lot about the
opposite sex.
Although I do
think that most characteristic are individualistic,
there are a
few that do encompass most males. I like
that men
are
protective. They can make a woman feel
safe. I like that
they are less
petty than females and more
straightforward. I like that they are leaders and good at
making
quick
decisions. Males are better at keeping things in
perspective.
They are
expected to
maintain a level of respect towards females i.e.
opening door
and paying for things. They are expected
to take
care of their
families and be more independent. They are good
drivers. I dislike that men tend to be
temperamental
and volatile. I dislike that they are
insecure yet
unwilling
to admit to
these insecurities. At age 5 boys cry
just as much
as girls.
Holding in
their emotions is something they are taught to do. It
is socially
unacceptable
for a man to be overly emotional. I
dislike that
they have two
personalities; one around women and another around
men. Commitment is a far stretch. At younger ages they have
only shallow
relationships with both men and women.
They mature
slower than
females. They watch porn and go to strip
clubs. In
general they
have a lack of respect towards women.
Women are
objects. Outward appearances are very important. Egos are huge.
They can't do
two things at once. If a guy hooks up
with a
hundred
girls, he's a pimp; if a girl hooks up with a hundred
guys, she's a
slut. They are dirty, i.e. fart, burp,
don't wash
their hands,
play with themselves.
#2.
Personally I like the comfort that I get when I am with guys.
Don't get me
wrong I am in no way dependent on guys, however,
there is a
comfort that I feel when I am with them.
I also
really like
how there is generally less drama with guys, they do
not take
things as personally and they are easier going about
things. However, I really don't like when guys try
and be macho.
I cannot
stand when guys get into fight especially when it is
about
something stupid. Who are they trying to
prove something
too?
#2. In
general, the things that I like about men are: When I am
around males
I feel a greater sense of protection. Another thing
that I like
about men is how "simple minded" they are. It seems
that their
thinking would make life so much easier, but I guess,
where's the
fun in that? In general, the things that I dislike
about men
are: They have no sense of hygiene. Come on guys, it's
a little
gross. I especially don't like when a male acts or truly
believes that
he is superior to women.
#2 In general, I like the opposite sex
mainly because they
throw a
different light onto a topic. I can
pretty much predict
what most of
my girlfriends will say about an issue or what type
of advice
they will give. However, a male friend
of mine can
often jolt me
into coming up with a decision about something
because they
make me think about it in a very different way.
Also, they
are not afraid to use their sense of humor to get
attention
from women, I hate how women are constantly worried
about
appearing goofy just because they can laugh and have a good
time. Often men do not hold themselves back as much
when it
comes to
being humorous at parties or in other environments,
which is
refreshing. I dislike the
opposite sex because
they feel
they need to constantly prove their masculinity by
calling other
men homosexuals. I hate how a lot of men
have no
problem
objectifying women. I know women do it
to men as well,
but it is a
lot more acceptable for men to do it.
Some men also
have no real
care for personal hygiene, I'm not saying I want a
clean shaven
man who gets a manicure every week, just someone who
showers
regularly, does his laundry, and cuts his nails.
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QUESTIION #3.
What is the one thing that the opposite sex most
misunderstands
about your own sex?
#3 I think
the one thing that males do not understand about
females is
that females take the little things very seriously.
If you dont
call when she is hoping that you will call, that will
upset her.
Or, if you bring her a thoughtful surprise, that will
make her feel
that she is important to you and she will be happy.
The problem
is, we do not voice these desires. For some reason we
hope that the
male will just know what we want, when really there
is NO way for
him to know. Another thing boys
misunderstand is
that girls
are very insecureeven the confident-seeming onesand
therefore
need constant reassurance that they are important to
the
male. Males need to understand that if a
girl feels
underappreciated,
then she is, whether or not that is the case.
#3 I think that men misunderstand about
women is their
desire for an
emotional connection to other people. And also how
women
communicated what they want to men.
#3. The opposite sex thinks that we are sensitive
and very
emotional and
we are but not to the extent that they make us out
to be. They misjudge our strength. We can make decisions that
do not let
emotions get in the way. The opposite
sex does not
seem to think
so. Since the beginning of time we have
tried to
get some
authoritarian positions but men do not look beyond the
stereotype
that women are too emotional. This is a
great
misunderstanding
that does not allow us to show how strong we can
be. We do not
always let emotions get in the way.
Sometimes men
act on
instinct but they are not judged for it, rather they were
born
leaders. But if a woman was acting on
instinct they would
be acting
irrational and on emotions.
This is a double standard that men need to
look beyond. We can
make rational
decisions as good as any other person.
#3 I would have to say men most misunderstand
how a woman wants
to be
treated. Sometimes they try too hard,
other times not
enough. I suppose it can be confusing at times, but
if men
really took
the time to listen to women and try to understand
where they
are coming from, it wouldn't be such a daunting task
for
them. Men also tend to misunderstand why
women act in
certain ways. For example, a woman may just want a man to
listen
to her
problems and be there for her, she may not want him to
find a
solution for them, at least right away.
Men always seem
to want quick
and easy answers to everything. However,
it isn't
always for
the best.
#3. How
important the little things are for females. For example,
a guy doesnt
understand how important remembering a birthday,
anniversary,
or another important date is for females
#3. One thing that I feel that the opposite sex
misunderstands
about females is in regards to emotions.
I feel
that males
often misinterpret the feelings, ideas, concerns, and
comments of
females as being overly emotional.
#3. I think
that the one thing males most misunderstand about
women is why
certain things are so important to us. You know that
forgetting
our birthday doesn't mean you don't love us, but it
hurts us when
you can't remember details about us. We think that
if we are in
a relationship with you, the things that are
important to
us should be important to you.
#3 I think
that one of the things the opposite sex misunderstands
about my own
sex is what we want in relationships and how we
expect them
to treat us if we are in a relationship. Or just how
we want to be
treated regardless of the status of the
relationship.
#3 I think what men most misunderstand about
women is what will
really make
them happy in a relationship. I believe
that men
think they
are supposed to make the money to support and spoil
their women. Although money is a nice bonus, it is not
what is
important in
a relationship. Men also think if they
try to do
what their
women tell them to do it will make the women happy. I
believe that
basically, women want to be treated equally.
They
want to be
respected. They want a man who will
really listen to
them, who is
thoughtful, is able to work through difficult
situations
with them, is able to express himself to her, is
supportive,
and shares interests.
#3 Guys a lot
of times seem to not understand why we are mad
about certain
things. They think that we are just randomly mad
for no
reason, when really we have a good reason to be mad. Guys
just dont
understand our emotions a lot of times.
#3 They don't understand our girl moments, you
know, when we
just need to
cry. Sometimes we are just upset and we
don't even
know
why. It's so simple, all they need to do
is hug us but they
take it as a
personal affront to them.
Guys need to understand that girls have so
much emotion coursing
through our
bodies that we sometimes have a spur of the moment
catharsis,
and that it is normal and okay. #3 Men
don't